Medium riskSocial Media

Sugar Daddy DM Scam

In this scam, a stranger offers to be your 'sugar daddy' or 'sugar momma' with a generous weekly allowance, then asks for an activation fee, gift cards, or your bank details, or sends a fake payment to lure a refund.

Quick verdict

Risk level
Medium risk
Scam type
Advance-fee / payment-detail phishing
Main red flag
A stranger offers easy money but first needs a fee, gift card, or your banking details.
What to do first
Do not pay anything or share account details. No genuine gift requires you to pay first.

What this scam usually looks like

In this scam, a stranger offers to be your 'sugar daddy' or 'sugar momma' with a generous weekly allowance, then asks for an activation fee, gift cards, or your bank details, or sends a fake payment to lure a refund.

Social media scams spread through direct messages, ads, hacked friends' accounts, and fake profiles. They range from account-takeover phishing and fake giveaways to investment and romance fraud, exploiting the trust and reach of your own network.

The single clearest warning sign to remember is this: A stranger offers easy money but first needs a fee, gift card, or your banking details. Do not pay anything or share account details. No genuine gift requires you to pay first.

Not sure this matches what you received? Compare it with the Romance Scam DM or the Cash App Scam, browse the Social Media Scams guides, or paste the exact message into our free scam checker.

By the numbers

$1.4B
reported lost to fraud that began on social media in the US in 2023
Source: US Federal Trade Commission
Top channel
social media was among the most common ways scams reached people in 2023
Source: US Federal Trade Commission

Example message pattern

Example pattern, not a real report
Example pattern: 'Hey gorgeous, I'll spoil you with $800/week, no strings. Just send a $50 activation fee for the payment app or share your bank login so I can deposit it.'

This is a fictional, anonymised example used to illustrate the pattern. It is not a verified real message, and any names are used only to show how the scam typically reads.

Why this is a red flag: A stranger offers easy money but first needs a fee, gift card, or your banking details.

Red flags to watch for

  • A stranger promising regular money for little or nothing
  • A request for an 'activation', 'verification', or 'clearance' fee
  • Requests for gift cards or your bank login or card details
  • A fake 'deposit' screenshot followed by a request to send some back
  • Quick moves to a messaging app and pressure to act fast

What to do

  • Ignore and block anyone who promises money but asks for a fee or details first
  • Never share bank logins, card numbers, or gift card codes
  • Treat payment 'screenshots' as meaningless until money truly clears
  • Report the profile to the platform

If you already clicked or replied

  • Stop sending any fees or gift cards immediately
  • If you shared bank details, contact your bank to secure your account
  • Change passwords if you gave any login information
  • Report and block the account and keep the messages as evidence

What not to do

  • Do not pay a fee to 'unlock' an allowance
  • Do not share your bank login or card details
  • Do not send money back from a 'deposit' you cannot confirm cleared

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Celebrity Impersonation DM Scam

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Frequently asked questions

Why would someone offering me money ask for a fee?
Because the money is not real. The fee, gift card, or bank details are what the scammer is actually after, and the promised allowance never arrives.
They sent a screenshot showing they paid me. Is it safe to refund?
No. Screenshots are easily faked, and 'send some back' is a classic trick. Only act on money that has genuinely cleared in your own account.
Is sharing my bank login ever needed to receive money?
No. Nobody needs your login or password to send you money. Sharing it gives a scammer direct access to your account.
I paid an activation fee. What now?
Stop all further payments, secure your bank account, change any shared passwords, and report the profile with your evidence.

Last reviewed June 2026 · Written & reviewed by the

Disclaimer: This page provides educational information only to help you recognise common scam patterns. It is not legal, financial, cybersecurity, or law enforcement advice, and it does not confirm whether any specific message, company, or person is genuine or fraudulent. When in doubt, contact the official organisation directly and report concerns to your local authorities.